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MY LIFE
Dear
msX ~
Well here's my story. I'm 29 years old and I used to go out with this guy who was 23. Well the only reason he wanted
to go out with me was sex and then I broke up with him and now he's not speaking to me, only when he has to like
to say Hello but he's more interested in my brother's life. Every one of my friends thought it was great that I
had this wonderful guy in my life and they wanted to meet him but he never wanted to do anything with them. I haven't
told them yet that we aren't seeing each other anymore. But I did take a pregnancy test and it came back negative
but I was hoping I was. Now I'm trying to get my life back to normal but it's hard. I'm trying to get some more
money, like getting a job but if I did get a job then how would I get there. I don't live in the city but I would
love to. My dad gives me $100.00 every two weeks for me helping cleaning the house and for doing the laundry, making
Dinner and Lunch. What I need to do is put the money in my accounts and not spend them but it's hard when you don't
really have alot of self-esteem. I also stay home all day and mostly all night while Mike goes out all the time.
He works and then he heads off to Raxx's. He only comes home on Wednesday nights. I think and feel trapped and
isolated here. I do get depressed alot of the time. I hate asking people to take me places but when I have a doctor's
appointment no body seems to want to take me anywhere. What should I do? I'm also trying to stop eating chocolate
and potato chips and pop but it's also hard. The main problem with me is I don't like myself very much and I don't
think I'm pretty and guys won't go out with me. My best friend is a guy and he only treats me like I'm his little
sister. My dad and brother get along great and I don't get along with my dad at all. I think it would be more easier
for me if I had a better life then this one. I'm done taking a bartender's course but no one will hire me because
I guess they don't like me or they don't think I can do the job but I can learn while I go. I'm a fast learner,
when I put my mind to something I think to myself and say I can do this. Well what do you think I should do with
all of this?
VERY KIND PERSON.
Dear My Life,
If you don't like where you're at, it's time to make some changes. Stop talking about it and do it! If you always
do what you always do, you always get what you always got, to quote someone whose name I can't remember. Instead
of focusing on what's wrong, start focusing on how you can change it. Therapy helps, too. Get moving. You've wasted
enough of your time.
ms. X
My crush
Dear
msX ~
My name is Sam and I like this girl in my class, and all of my friends know now and are annoying me with trying
to give me advice. I just want to act normal and get her to notice that I like her, so soon I can ask her out.
Also, what should I do for valentines day?
Dear Sam,
Friends, while well-meaning, can ruin any chance of romance. Their involvement seems to escalate things prematurely,
when all one really needs to do is continue on their course and show a little patience. It puts you and this girl
in the spotlight and the uncomfortable feeling of being everyone's entertainment can be a huge turn-off. Next time,
keep your crushes to yourself or only tell one trusted friend. As far as Valentine's Day, a note or card that tells
her why you like her would be appropriate. Since she undoubtedly already knows that you do like her, throw a sincere
compliment her way by means of a personal message and see where that takes you. Don't ask a friend to deliver it,
though.
ms. X
PIMPLES HELP
Dear
msX ~
I have pimples and I was wondering how I could get rid of them please help me!
Dear Pimples Help,
A dermatologist (skin doctor) can make them vanish, or at least get rid of most. The doctor will give you medicine
that will help clear it up from the inside, as well as topical medicine that is stronger than any over-the-counter
remedies. She will also advise you about cleansing products and instruct you about a diet that will limit breakouts.
If your parents have health insurance, they should look into this. There is really no reason for anyone to suffer
with acne if they have access to a doctor or clinic. If your parents are not able to afford or access a dermatologist,
then perhaps they can try looking at what is available in a health food store. There are books that will tell you
what vitamins and foods promote healthier skin. Do some research yourself and see what you learn before presenting
it to your parents. And, keep your hands off your face...popping and touching pimples always makes them worse.
Good luck,
ms. X
boy trouble! PLEASE help me out
Dear
msX ~
I am SERIOUSLY head-over heels for a guy in a bunch of my classes named Danny. First off, I am VERY VERY VERY shy.
I'm always known as the innocent one. Anyway, I think we've become friends....This is the first year we've known
each other. I have NEVER been out with a guy. I've been asked by several guys, but they just weren't my type...But,
Danny...I just CANNOT stop thinking about him.. I have dreams EVERY night about him. I can't tell if he likes me,
but I'm starting to get talkative around him. He always says hey when class starts....& he always says talk
to ya later, or bye when class ends....& we even sometimes get in trouble for talking & laughing in class.
He just cracks me up! He makes these very silly faces at me for no reason in the middle of a test or something.....&
then, I just burst out laughing....I can't figure him out....I hope he likes me. I wish I could ask him out or
something, but I can't do it! I've never asked anyone out....&, the fact that my over-protective parents think
I'm too young to date doesn't help much. I just can't get up the courage to ask him out it. If they say no or something,
I'll never be able to look at them again. That's just how I am, I can't help it. Danny & I have exchanged e-mail
addresses, & we've talked for a few.....seconds online... But, he's always whispering in my ear how he likes
some girl named Lea. But, he talks to me way more than he talks to Lea! When he was whispering to me one time,
he was saying stuff like God, she's hot (about Lea girl)...... then, he said, You know who else is....? Then he
said, NA, I can't tell ya. That's not for you. That kinda makes me wonder if he was going to say me. In the classes
we're in, we sit by each other, laugh, giggle, talk, etc...we work together when we can, & we've done a project
together. I just cannot tell if he's into me or not.....I just know that I cannot get him out of my head. It's
driving me absolutely crazy. Please reply to this message. Thanks a bunch, Robin
Dear Robin,
Sounds to me like he's interested. You have the rest of the school year to continue this flirtation. See where
it leads. If you're still unsure when you break for summer, you'll be a little older, know him a little better,
and can tell him you'll miss your chats when school is out. That will certainly give him the opportunity to pick-up
the ball and run with it, if that's what he wants to do.
ms. X
Ready For Dating
Dear
msX ~
All my life I've been very shy and reserved, and because of this I have never had a boyfriend or anything like
that. I've come out of my shell a little more since high school started (I'm 16) but I'm still known as goody-goody
and prude, and guys don't pay much attention to me as being more then just a friend. I want a boyfriend but w/this
reputation, no guys seem to look at me as girlfriend material. I think this is because they assume I'm not into
having a boyfriends, which is not true. I'm still pretty shy around guys, but I want a boyfriend. How can I get
more guys to realize I'm ready for them, and that I'm not 'that girl that doesn't like to date' anymore?
Dear Ready for Dating,
Sweetie, when you say you want a boyfriend, it makes me think you'll settle for just anybody. Don't. As you overcome
your shyness and socialize more, you will find that not all boyfriends are created equal. You want a good one and
sometimes that takes time. But, it's worth it to wait until it's a particular person you're wanting and not just
filling a position.
ms. X
how do I get her to like me
Dear
msX ~
I am in love with a girl named Sarah and she is 2 years older than me she is my really close friend but I want
to go out with her what should I do
Dear How do I Get Her to Like Me,
Ask her out. You'll never know unless you try.
ms. X
over protected parents
Dear
msX ~
I'm gonna try to make this as short as possible BUT I don’t think I can make it 2 short! Okay I’m a 16 year old
female who lives in a very small town where nothing ever happens...okay my parents are like very very very protective.
My curfew WHEN I get to go out is 11 at night that is if I’m lucky. They won't let me go mid-night bowling because
they say its to late for me being out. I would understand this if I lived in like NY or somewhere big like that
but I mean this place only has like 15,000 people if that many!!! I try telling them that my curfew is not fair
but they keep on saying the world isn't fair. My mom lest me away with things sometimes but me and my dad are constantly
fighting. Most not all but most of my friends have late curfews and when I go out with them they have to drop there
plans for me so I can be back before 11:00. this is only one of the problems the other one is my mom I love my
mom to death we are like best friends BUT she try's to take up for me and then her and my dad get into it. I just
feel so depressed right now I even thought about running away or killing myself BUT I came to my senses with those
choices. I feel like the only escape to this is my friends and I’m so scared of losing them I feel sometimes I
am getting used BUT I won't say or do anything to make them mad at me! I dunno I just feel dead kinda... in a sense....
if you will. If you have any advice any would be greatly appreciated BTW I love your web-site I come here and read
up on everything about once a week so keep up the good job and thanx!!!
Dear Over-protective parents,
You're not always going to be sixteen. Talk to your dad, if you can. Tell him how this is making you feel. Maybe
since he is the one you have to convince, a direct approach would be better than having your mom go to bat for
you. Explain that you are talking to him because you don't want to be the cause of any fighting, but you are growing
up and have shown yourself to be responsible and would like to negotiate privileges. Maybe you could set a timetable
with him for the granting of privileges or maybe you could work a deal where as you prove yourself to him, you
earn the right to stay out later. Give it a try, you have everything to gain, even a better relationship with your
dad.
ms. X
An older guy
Dear
msX ~
I fancy an older guy, and he likes me too. Just there is such a big age gap and I don't know what to do? I am 17
years old, he is 30+ years.
Mary
Dear Mary,
At seventeen, I think thirty plus is too old for you. Maybe in a couple of years, but that big an age difference
means more when you're young. Once you're a grownup, then if you can manage the age difference and the different
points of view that are likely to erupt, then it's your decision. I would be suspect about a guy wanting to be
with someone who was half his age...often it is a sign that he would not have the same success with his own peers
or that he is looking to take advantage of a girl with little worldly experience.
ms. X
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