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Frigid Boyfriend

Dear msX ~
I have a frigid boyfriend. He never wants to hold hands or anything. We have been together now for three months. My best bud Jamie has a boyfriend too. She complains that she wants more and now she痴 complaining that she has to much. Should I tell Jordan my problem, we have kissed TWICE!(only)and he never wants to hold hands. We have went on three dates, on only one date(which was to the drive)we snuggled. On are last date he left because he said he was going to throw up. Is he trying to ignore me or does he just not want to be with me. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

msX says~
He's obviously not ready. Don't force it. You wouldn't want to be wearing vomit.
Ms. X

modeling

Dear msX ~
my problem is wanting to be come a model I知 22years old I have a two year old little boy I need help to my dream I know I could do it but its the money part . I知 4/11 red long hair dark blue eyes weight 98lbs people tell I look like twiggy the model my face looks just like hers I just need to make it in the modeling MY DREAM IS TO GO TO NY YORK CITY ND MAKE IT BIG THERE

msX says~
If that's your dream, go for it. But I know nothing about modeling, so I have no advice for you, other than to follow your dream so you don't live to have regrets.
Ms. X

Personal ID

Dear msX ~
How does one establish their personal Identity?

msX says~
By being true to themselves and not following others. By not putting on an act and by showing the world their true colors. Just be yourself, your identity will follow.
Ms. X

boy problem

Dear msX ~
My best friend of six years and I decided to get together. Form a beyond friendship relationship. But we decided to do this right when I was moving from L.A. to Murrieta. He insisted on staying together because he said he cared to much for me and he didn稚 want to lose me. A month has gone by and communication is awful. I've done most of the contacting. Now, he tells me that he's not being fair to me, because he is preventing me from meeting others. He said we should stay friends and start to talk. That way we're talking. I don't understand what he means
by talking.

msX says~
I think it means he still wants you in his life, he's just not sure in what capacity. Friends talk, you were friends first. Sounds like he wants to at least keep that part of your relationship intact. Who knows what the future will bring?
Ms. X

flirting with her

Dear msX ~
there is this guy who keeps flirting with my girlfriend and he won't stop. my girlfriend says not to worry about it but he just won't quit. I don't like him one bit, in fact I would really like to beat the cr@p out of him because he just won't stop even when my girlfriend tells him to stop over and over. Plus the stupid moron knows she's been dating me for almost six months now but he still won't stop. My girlfriend says not to worry about it. He always tells me "I respect you and your girlfriend and I would never do anything to break you guys apart" and then he will go right behind my back again and keep flirting with her and making passes on her. He keeps saying stuff like "I love you" and "I知 so depressed" and "I can love you much better"

msX says~
You don't have to like it, but accept you can't control it. Your choices are to stay and live with it or take a hike. But, constantly complaining and being angry do not make a relationship turn itself around. Some people are just natural flirts.
Ms. X

friends

Dear msX ~
My friends have been so 2 faced it isnt even funny.. what should I do?

msX says~
Since you're already aware of it, try to know which face you're dealing with and keep your trust home for now.
Ms. X

very upset

Dear msX ~
a few months ago I met this girl who痴 dad had dumped her off in my neighborhood and left her there to make her living on her own and well me and her became such close friends and my parents could see that so they took her in our house and took legal guardianship of her. we had got her life back on track, off drugs, back into school and she was real happy living with us she said she felt like she had a real family. she knew that if she got into any trouble that we would have nothing to do with it. the social worker said the first time she got into trouble at school that she would be placed directly into a girls home till she was 18 and she is only 15. well she went to school one day and got suspended from school and took straight to the police station. and then placed in a home and I never got a chance to see her again. I don稚 know the address where she is at so I cant write her or visit her and I am very depressed about that she was my best friend and always will be and I came to you to see if you could help me find out where she was taken and get the address. I know the name of the place she might be at but I知 not for totally sure. I need the address so I can either write her or visit her because I知 the only person that she has to care about her. do you think you could help me,

msX says~
Maybe your parents can find out for you. But, I don't think the authorities are going to give out information to a minor. Since your parents took on responsibility for this girl, it would not be out of line for them to inquire as to her progress.
Ms. X

Case of the Ex!

Dear msX ~
My boyfriend & I broke up one month from today. The hardest thing is that we broke up three days before our one year anniversary! Here's the problem, He was my first love & I知 determined to get him back. But he doesn't want a girlfriend right now. But he is also goin to home coming with me. What do I do? Should I get over him?

msX says~
He doesn't want a girlfriend. And all that it entails. But, that doesn't mean he doesn't want to spend time with you. Don't scare him off by being so determined, accept him on his terms for now.
Ms. X

scared

Dear msX ~
I like this other guy but I知 not ready to have another relationship yet. I was really hurt in my last one and I知 scared that I'll get hurt again. I don't know what to do. what should I do?

msX says~
When you're ready, the wall will come down. If you retreat behind them in fear, you may never know. One bad experience doesn't cement your future path. Have faith.
Ms. X

Never been Kissed

Dear msX ~
I am an 18 year old girl who has never been kissed. I have a guy friend that would like to become my boyfriend, he is a very experienced young man. I am extremely nervous about that first kiss. I fear that It won't happen right. Being that I know he has done it many times before unlike me. How do I over come that fear, so it can finally happen? Also being that I have never done it before should I approach him or wait for him to do the first move?

msX says~
A planned kiss is not a real kiss. Just go with it. When it happens, it will feel right. Not something to put on the calendar and arrange.
Ms. X

 

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