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hopelessly in love

Dear msX ~
I was really serious with this really sweet guy. But sadly later on he moved away. I was so upset, but we continued to call each other each day. Then I decided that I felt selfish keeping him from having a girlfriend closer to him that can be there for him more, so I broke up with him. But we still remain friends. I know how much he loves me, and I love him too, but this long distance thing is breaking my heart. I donít know how to keep a relationship that is so far away. So if we end up together again one day because sometimes our feelings are so undeniable.....how am I going to handle it this time?? PLEASE HELP

Dear Hopelessly in Love,
Long distance relationships are the pits, but if you are too young to live on your own, you have to wait it out. E-mail, telephone, paper letters, can all be very romantic. Perhaps you can visit during school breaks. See if your relationship stands the trial of separation. If it doesn't, it wasn't meant to be.
ms. X


Have questions and need answers

Dear msX ~
I dated this guy for about four months last summer and everything was great between us and I know I fell in love with him then and he said he loved me. But for some reason one day we got into and argument and he told me that he was not ready for a relationship so we broke up for about four months and I dated other people. He did not date anyone during this time. One day he called me just out of no where and he was telling how much he missed me and how he knew he had a great thing and lost it and how much he has learned that he loved me and how much of a great thing me and him could have had if he would not have been scared to fall in love or actually be truly loved by someone. At first I did not believe him or trust him but we talked a few days and I talked to his mom and sister and uncle and even his best friend and they told me that he told them all the same thing all I did was say has Rusty talked about his feelings for me and they told me almost the same thing that he told me. so I took him back and we have been together almost a month now and he treats me great, He never hit's me or cusses or me or does anything to hurt me like other guys have and he always try's to be there for me and help me out when he can with money or anything. We never even argue. I think since we have been back together we have had one little argument. And that was just because me and him both work he works in the morning while I am at school and I work at night so we only get to see each other maybe one time a week but we talk on the phone even it is just for a few minutes every night. But he got mad because I was spending more time with this guy from work than I was with him. My first question is, is it true that if you let it go and it comes back to you that it is true? and now my second problem is, is that I like the guy I work with a lot he is 22 and I am 17 and we have a lot of fun together and we have kissed and stuff like that. I feel guilty about kissing him But I really like him and now even though I love my boyfriend ever since I met this I feel like I am now attracted to him anymore. I feel like he is just not who I want to be with or what I want and like this other guy is because we have more things in common and stuff like that. I don't know if I should tell me boyfriend about my feelings or not because I mean things with this other guy might not turn out to be like it looks and I might lose a great guy. So what do I do????

Dear Have Questions and Need Answers,
You like them both. It might not be the right time to push yourself for a decision. If you don't know which one you like better, wait and see. Pushing a decision prematurely is never the right answer.
ms. X


grandmas

Dear msX ~
This last weekend I went up to my grandparents house. They live on a lake. Sunday I was going to take my friend to work but she called in. So we went over to my boyfriends cabin to ride his four wheelers. I didn't tell anyone what I was doing so when I got home my parents where really mad, because my grandma had to use the computer and I wasn't home. They said I lied to her so now Iím grounded for a month because I didn't say what was going on. I can't do anything for a month, no phone, no going out nothing. What do you thing I should do. I feel bad the way it is. And my parents aren't making it any better. Also my mom called my friends mom to tell her that she called in sick. That wasn't the greatest thing she could of done. Will that is all write back soon.

Dear Grandmas,
Accept the consequences of your actions and take your punishment. Next time you'll know better and tell people where you're off to. Show that you've learned and you'll get your privileges back. Even grownups show each other the courtesy of letting the people they live with know where they are.
ms. X


Girls

Dear msX ~
Iím 13 and a boy I need a girl friend can tell me how.

Dear Girls,
As you get older, you'll need more girl skills. Practice talking to and listening to the girls you know now. Be yourself, but put your best self out there.
ms. X


Friends

Dear msX ~
Ok there's these 2 girls at school and I just recently started hanging out with them, there really nice and I want to be their friends, but I feel like Iím walking on eggshells when Iím around them, Iím afraid what ever I say will make them think Iím stupid, like the other day I said something and one of them rolled their eyes, I really want to be their friends so what should I do to help my self feel less uncomfortable around them?

Dear Friends,
Three can be a difficult number in friendships with young girls. Like a triangle, it's always two against one. Try doing some things with each girl separately, so you can form your own friendship with each of them. Then it won't be as if you are the intruder. If you can't be yourself, though, these girls aren't worth it.
ms. X


friend problem

Dear msX ~
I have these 4 close friends that are in all of my classes, 3 of them used to hang out together and leave me and the 4th friend alone. then sometimes me and the other one always used to talk about how we felt that they were leaving us and not hanging out with us anymore. Now that girl has started hanging out with them and leaving me feeling left out and I know I could just go hang out with them too but I know I would feel unwanted because thats how they make me feel when I try and talk to them. Its like they think Iím not cool enough for them, or at least thats how it feels. They are still my friends but not great ones. What should I do, should I talk to them, or talk to the one who has most recently left me. Or should I ditch them? I donít want to ditch them though because in all my other classes there would be nobody I'd want to hang out with. PLEASE HELP!!! Any advice you have would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
Sincerely,
***Lonely for a Best Bud***

Dear Friend Problem,
How do you know what these girls think, when you are sitting on the outskirts? Get over the fact that you didn't get an engraved invitation to hang out and just do it. Maybe they think you are the one acting stuck up, not liking them.
ms. X


flirt can hurt

Dear msX ~
There is this guy I like in my class and we always flirt, but on Easter I gave him a small Easter basket with some goodies in it and he started saying that I was desperate. After school that day he knew that I heard and he came up to me and acted like nothing happened, I don't know what to do and your my only hope

Dear Flirt Can Hurt,
I think he was frightened by your public display of affection, the Easter basket, and struck out at you. When he thought about it, he must have felt like a jerk. Sometimes it's better to wait and see what his move is going to be before making a bold move like gifting someone.
ms. X


Doesn't trust me

Dear msX ~
I am a year old teen who is very mature for my age. I will be 15 this summer. Well, recently I have been looking into academic and fundamental summer camps that I am interested in. Well, I haven't exactly talked to my guardian (my grandmom) about it yet. Well, she has seen all the applications coming in the house but has never said anything about it. Well, Today I found one that I really really really like and want to apply for. Well, I started talking to her about it and she hardly listened all she did was say no. She thinks that Iím to young to go away and be with strangers. I mean, she acts like I'll be alone all day with a bunch of men. It's a music camp for heavens sake. I'll practically be busy all day doing my own thing. Iím not naive and she needs to realize that. The only problem is I can't tell her that because I don't know how. Could you please give me a little help!!!!!! Iím desperate and I really want to go. It's easy to change her mind and my aunt said she would get her to but I want try to do this on my own.

Dear Doesn't Trust Me,
Maybe you could have your music teacher or guidance counselor talk to her. If she gets an endorsement from someone from the school, that might legitimize your request. Try it, or maybe you can get her to consider next year.
ms. X


DOES HE REALLY LOVE ME?

Dear msX ~
THIS GUY AND ME HAS KNOWN EACH OTHER FOR ABOUT 2YEARS, AND WE HAVE WENT TOGETHER 3 TIMES SINCE I'VE MET HIM. WELL THE THIRD TIME I'VE WENT OUT WITH HIM, HE BROKE UP WITH ME FOR ONE OF MY FRIENDS. I WAS VERY HEARTBROKEN. I LOVE HIM ALOT AND ALWAYS WILL. BUT I JUST WANNA KNOW DOES HE REALLY LOVE ME? HE TELLS ME HE LOVES ME AND I WILL ALWAYS HAVE A PLACE IN HIS HEART. THE THING IS , IS WHEN WE ARE AT SCHOOL HE DOESN'T HARDLY TALK TO ME. HE TELLS ME THE ONLY REASON HE DOES'NT IS BECAUSE HE WANTS ME TO TALK TO HIM FIRST. DO YOU THINK THAT IS JUST AN EXCUSE?

Dear Does He Really Love Me,
Let's see. He broke up with you, went out with your friend, doesn't talk to you at school unless you talk to him first, and you want to know if he really loves you. What do you think?
ms. X


Does he or not?

Dear msX ~
There is this guy who isn't really attractive but is really cool and he is in my theatre arts class. Since the first day we have been pretty buddy-buddy. He is very goofy and since I have known him he has never been serious. The other day, however, he sat next to me and held my hand without saying a word, for the whole class. I am not sure if he likes me or not and I am afraid that if I talk to him about it I will ruin our friendship. Can you help?

Dear Does He or not?
It sounds like he does, but just so you don't get your signals crossed, why not wait for a new message from him? That way, you'll be sure you have misinterpreted.
ms. X


Dating

Dear msX ~
My best friend has been in love with this kid since 8th grade and we are now juniors in high school. The kid she is in like love with doesn't like her and I like him sooo much and he likes me alot too. I have been talking to him and she doesn't know. The boy doesn't understand the big deal what it is. I don't know what I should do if I should tell her or not. If I tell her she is gonna be like, that's not right of u to do that and be like I can't believe u would do that to me. Then she would tell me that if I did that to her she will be so mad and will never trust me again.

Dear Dating,
You'd better tell her before she finds out and has something else to hold against you. I'd make sure this is what I want, though, before I'd blow a friendship.
ms. X


Changes...

Dear msX ~
Kim and I were like sisters...Together everyday, and everyone knew how tight we were...I don't know when it started, but we've totally grown apart...I miss the old Kim so much, but I don't know the new Kim...We both were against drinking and smoking and she does both now, and I know it's because of the new people she's hanging out with...I worry about her and miss her friendship so much, but I don't know if I can handle being friends with the new Kim...What should I do?

Dear Changes,
Friends grow apart sometimes. Sometimes it's just a detour and they grow back together after a time, but sometimes not. If you don't want to be around smoking and drinking, don't let Kim pull you into it. But, you cannot sit in judgement of Kim if you want her friendship. True friendship is unconditional.
ms. X


Boy problems(3)

Dear msX ~
First of all, there are three boys in my school who I know like me. I only like them as friends. However, two of them asked me out on the same day, and I think the third is about to also. I don't want to let any of them down, but I don't know how to tell them that all I want to be is friends. How can I tell them and still be able to hang around with them?

Dear Boy Problems,
Just tell them you want to be friends. You have no obligation to like someone back, just because they like you. Make your own choices and don't apologize. You don't owe nobody nothing.
ms. X


A girlfriend not a mom

Dear msX ~
I have been dating this guy Adam for over four months. I love him, and I am sure he loves me, but the last time we had an argument he just told me that I have been acting like I am his mother and that I have been trying to run his decisions. I recently talked to an Ex-boyfriend who recognized the complaint and it made him laugh. What I would like to know is why do I do this to him. I mean I only want him to be safe and to do the right thing and sometimes you need a little guidance even I know that.

Dear A girlfriend not a mom,
Our conditioning makes us nurturers. Whatever you did, reminded him of his mother. And, he doesn't want to date his mother. Back off. You can say you're concerned in a way that does not sound bossy, threatening, or maternal.
ms. X


A Friend in Need

Dear msX ~
There's this dude that Iíve been friends with all my life and we've become really close. His dad is an alcoholic and drinks pretty frequently. His dad comes home wasted and sometimes takes things out on my friend (physically). When this happens, my friend comes over and I patch him up. The abuse has been getting pretty bad though, and it's gotten to the point where his father will drug him also. My friend needs some serious help from someone, but he keeps crawling to me. I don't know what to do to get this to stop! Please help me.
Concerned friend-

Dear A Friend In Need,
If your friend is a minor and you report it to his school, they will keep your identity anonymous and, by law, they must begin an investigation. If you don't report it, it will continue and could escalate and have more serious consequences. If he isn't in school, call your state's child abuse hotline. All information is kept confidential.
Good luck,
ms. X


DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO

Dear msX ~
My girlfriend and I have been going out for over 8 months. For her and I this is the longest we've been in a relationship. On and off we tell each other how much we enjoy each others company and we give each other a lot of attention. Her family likes me a whole lot as well as my family likes her. But the problem that I have is that some of her family lies, cheats and uses other people to get whatever they want. I am not saying that my family is the all-American family. My family has it's up and down flaws as well. For example, she has this uncle that is always butting into things that is non of his business in our relationship. He's the kind of person who envy's others just because they have a better job, car, house, etc. He can't stand to see others progress at something. He's always asking me for BEER, but most of it bothers me when he and his low buddy's start giving me hard time over things like not drinking as much as they do and they tell that they know who wears the pants in my relationship. My girlfriends just tells me, just watch what you say when your around my uncle. But at the same time that makes me feel uncomfortable and awkward, because if I can't say nothing around this certain family member of hers I feel that Iím not myself and that have to be someone else. He's the kind of person who tells you an insulting joke, but at the same time he can't take one the joke. Like the saying goes in my family, if you can't take a joke don't give a joke. The last thing that I want to say, is something about my girlfriend. I am 6 years older than her, she is 22 yrs old and I am 28 yrs old. The problem is, that she doesn't go to school nor work. All she has is her High School diploma and thats it. Since we have been together I encourage her to go to College and work. At first, Her responds was that she hasn't thought of it much. But it seems that it sort of sinking, but not fully; in going back to college or work ( 45 ing to say, I'll support her decisions , be there for her, help her in whatever she wants to do. But what I don't want to do is support her in being lazy ( she knows that I am against supporting a lazy people, and if we ever got married I am totally against supporting a stay at home wife. This is the 21 st century and I treat everyone equally 100

Dear Don't Know What to Do,
It's said that you can tell what a person can become by looking at their parents. While I don't believe that is always the case, it is usually a strong possibility. And, whatever problems you have with your girlfriend and her family, understand that they will seem magnified ten times when you marry and spend all your time together. Before you tie yourself up to a woman who's going to be dependent on you, think carefully. If she finds it hard to work when she is young and healthy, what will life be when she has children to care for? Children are demanding of both energy and money. People who spend all their time in non-productive activity do not change overnight, unless they have to. Marriage is too big a step to take with all these doubts and problems in the air. My advice to you is to take a step back and examine if you really want to marry this girl and her family before you find yourself trapped.
ms. X


Dear msX ~
ok Iím 11 years old and my boyfriend is 13. and his grandparents were watching us we were in the basement and we were watching a movie and I fell asleep on his lap and when I woke up he was looking up my shirt and touching me he didnít know I was awake . I donít know weather to dump him or just confront him. please help

Dear Krazy Babe,
No one is supposed to touch you without your permission. The fact that you were sleeping means you did not give him the green light. In any case, an eleven year old is much to young to be flashing green lights to any boy. Dump him and forget the confrontation unless he asks for one. In the future, don't put yourself into situation where you can get hurt or in trouble again.
ms. X


Dear msX ~
My friend was having a problem at school because somebody was spreading rumors about her.

Dear Rumor Friend,
If you are a good friend, start spreading the anti-rumor. When you hear unfounded gossip, contradict the spreader of it. Ask how they know and where they got their facts. If you don't believe it, say so. Otherwise, it is usually best to ignore a rumor and wait for the next bit of hot gossip to overpower it. But, now you can see just how hurtful gossip can be.
ms. X


Dear msX ~
I LIKE THIS GUY, BUT HE WILL NOT GIVE ME THE TIME OF DAY. I AM VERY VERY SHY. WE USE TO BE CLOSE FRIENDS (AS HE SAYS WE ARE). BUT NOW I DON'T SEE HIM AS MUCH. BUT WHEN I DO I GET NERVOUS AND SHAKE. I HAVE DREAMS ABOUT HOW WE TALK AND ETC. BUT I FEEL I AM NOT GOOD ENOUGH 4 HIM. Iím FAT SO I THINK HE WILL NOT LIKE ME . FOR VALENTINE'S DAY I SENT A FLOWER AND A CARD TO HIM . BUT I DID NOT TELL HIM IT WAS FROM I ,I JUST WROTE FROM ME. MY FRIEND TOLD HIM I SENT IT BUT SHE SAYS HE SMILED. I THINK HE MAY NOT LIKE ME IF I TELL HIM. BUT IT BOTHERS ME IN MY DREAMS WHEN I DON'T TELL HIM HOW I FEEL SINCE I FEEL THAT WAY I FEEL I DON'T HAVE WHAT IT TAKES TO TALK TO GUYS.

Dear Close Friend,
You need to get it out of your head that guys only like skinny girls. That is not necessarily true. And, you need to find things to like about yourself, so that you can showcase these positives and thus shadow the negatives. Usually we are harder on ourselves than others are. Give yourself a break and focus on your strengths. If the weight bothers you, then lose it. Exercise, physical play, and healthy eating will slim you down and make you feel better about yourself. What are you waiting for?
ms. X


Dear msX ~
I am a teenage girl, and lately I have been having some serious feelings for my cousin Maggie's boyfriend. Ive never acted on them and he thinks of me like just a friend and I donít know what to do.

Dear Maggie's Cousin,
Keep your feelings to yourself. Not unless Maggie is done with this guy and, even then, not without clearing it with her first, should you even entertain flirting with him. Some things cannot be taken back once they are started. I fear it would be very hurtful to your cousin if you acted on your crush. Wait a bit longer and I am sure you will find some other, less risky person, to like.
ms. X


Dear msX ~
I am a seventeen year old girl and have had a steady boyfriend for over a year now. Although he is great in many ways, he goes to porn sites on the Internet, and has cybersex with people he chats with. He says he isn't serious about it and does it for laughs, but when I asked him to stop he wouldn't. This recently really bothered me when some girl sent him nudie pictures of herself and another girl, and some porn. am I blowing this out of proportion?

Dear Anti-Internet Sex Girlfriend,
I share your concerns. Porn hurts in that it, more often than not, shows women in submissive and degrading situations. The fact that he is not considering your feelings and continues to flaunt his cyber-sex shows a disregard for you. I am not talking about erotica, which has its place in a relationship, but pornography, coupled with gratuitous electronic sex with strangers, is a bad indicator. You are heeding your intuition and I think you are right. He is not for you.
ms. X


Dear msX ~
my boyfriend wants to make love to me

Dear My Boyfriend Wants to Make Love to Me,
If you're old enough and you want it as well, I don't think this is a problem. If you're underage and you are not sure, you have the ultimate right to tell him no.
ms. X


Dear msX ~
why does my boyfriend always want a make out in public

Dear Make-Out In Public,
Probably because he thinks it makes people see him as a successful guy with the girls. He is more interested in getting a reaction from others and a reputation for himself as a player than he is in you. And, people might think, If this is what they do in public, imagine how far they go in private!
ms. X


Dear msX ~
I Choose not to drink but all of my friends do. I graduate in about a month and there is a huge senior party. all there going to do there is drink and have sex should I go?

Dear Non-Drinker,
Depends. Is it going to be safe, i.e. no driving? You can go and not drink, this is an option. That might give other people who'd otherwise give into peer pressure support to join you in not drinking. If it makes you uncomfortable or you think it will be a dangerous situation, then forego it. But, if you can have fun with these people without compromising your own values, then go, just for the sake of memories later on.
ms. X


Dear msX ~
I am a 14 year old guy, and I am in love with my older sister's best friend. I see her almost every single day, and I think about her all the time. She is twenty, and the most beautiful girl. All of my friends like her too. What should I do? Please help.

Dear Fourteen Year Old Guy,
When you're fourteen, six years means alot. It won't mean much in another few years, so hang in there. But, it is unrealistic to think that a twenty year old is going to wait for a guy to catch up with her. She is probably immensely flattered that you find her so attractive, but knows that it would be impossible at this point of your lives.
ms. X


Dear msX ~
Iím only 15 years old and I have a problem with a girl, K just because she thought that I was flirting with A(she likes him)a few weeks ago. But the truth is I didn't do that. It was him who flirting with me. So, this girl is giving me a hard time everyday. this problem continue with A's best friend, Isaac started to flirt with me. The problem is Isaac's ex-girlfriend is my friend, N. Iím afraid that my friend will know about this. i don't want to hurt her feeling. (actually, I like A and Isaac...) So, could you help me to bury the hatchet with K and also tell me what to do with both that guys (they keep flirting with me until now) and how to tell N about this.

Dear Flirt,
If you don't want to hurt your friends, stop flirting with the guys they like. When everyone has moved on to new crushes, then you could resume your flirting. Friends first.
ms. X



Dear msX ~
I've had a very bad day and it brought up all the worst things that Iíve done in life. From doing drug in class to ditching classes to sex. I feel really bad and it's making me cry alot like Iím wanting to kill myself. What should I do?

Dear Bad Day,
One step at a time. Find yourself a therapist, if you haven't already, and begin taking the steps you need to reclaim your life. It is possible. You have to learn to stop abusing yourself and will need professional guidance. Ask the grownups in your life to help set you up in a counseling program. Killing yourself is never the answer. You never know what wonderfulness is right around the corner once you clean up your act.
Good luck,
ms. X



Dear msX ~
I am an 18 and I was a heroin addict. Because of my addiction I was forced to go live with other relatives and have been for months. Every time I go home for a visit I do dope again and I donít know why. I hate living here with my other family I just wish sometimes I could find heroin here and just OD? I was on Paxil, Prozac, and Wellbrutrin but they did not help me. The only thing that helps is doing drugs. I now I have starting experimented with the left over prescriptions I have and I also Xanax, I tried snorting them and taking a bunch of them. I really donít know what to do. I go see and a counselor at a rehab but it doesnít help. Every night I cry myself to sleep because I hate myself and my situation. When mom calls to check up on me all I do is fight with her and tell her never to call me again and hang up. What is wrong with me? I want to be normal but its hard when you live in a new place with new people who always make you feel unwanted and a burden? They also say I donít do enough and whatever I do is never good enough? I have two jobs and work 40 hours a week, go to school, and take a class at college and get al A's and still it doesnít matter to them. I think they fell I am a lowlife and wont look at me as anything but a worthless drug addict. What should do before I go crazy or kill myself? Thank you

Dear Drug Problem,
Maybe you are not in the right rehab. A different program may yield better results. But, you have to want to change. Heroin is envelopes your soul. It causes you to alienate yourself from the people who love you. Long-term residential programs work better than outpatient, but the desire to exorcise the demon drug has to come from within you. Please seek help immediately. If your program isn't working, get yourself into another. You really don't want to die, it is the heroin talking for you.
God Bless,
ms. X



Dear msX ~
hello, it's no big issue. But I lost my dad two years ago ,not dead but it seems he is .he lives near .three weeks ago my brother left .he went to our dads house ,his girl friend called me several times saying that he misses me , I don't really understand he suffers from some mental disorders, I hate my dad it seems that he is the reason of my brother acting this way, my dad was an alcoholic, abusive but now Iím safe can forgive him he was always mean to me but sometimes he was nice. me and my mom are moving soon. I really want to be a singer or something like that, but I just can't every time I turn around something happens what should I do?

Dear Dad Problem,
It sounds like you have alot of stuff going on and you just need someone to talk to. Try seeing your counselor at school. The issues with your family may take some time to resolve, but with a good counselor, you will find that talking about your problems helps you to manage them better. Good luck,
ms. X


Dear msX ~
I HAVE BEEN WITH THIS KID FOR SIX MONTHS AND IT WAS SUPPOSE TO BE 7 MONTHS BUT I BROKE UP WITH HIM BECAUSE HE WAS REALLY TREATING ME MEAN BUT WHILE WE WERE GOING OUT WE HAD A GOOD RELATIONSHIP BUT WE ARGUED A LOT AND BROKE UP 11 TIMES AND GOT BACK TOGETHER BUT NOW HE IS TREATING ME SO MEAN AND FLIRTS I THOUGHT HE WAS GOING TO BE THE ONE FOR ME WE EVEN GOT ENGAGED HE SAYS HE STILL LOVES ME BUT IF HE DID HE WOULD TRY TO GO BACK OUT WITH ME I LOVE HIM SO MUCH I CAN'T BE WITHOUT HIM BUT AFTER EVERYTHING HE DID TO ME I CANT FORGIVE HIM BECAUSE HE HAS A HUGE TEMPER HE USED TO BE SO GOOD TO ME BUT KNOW I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO I REALLY LOVE HIM.

Dear I Really Do Love Him,
Do you really want to tie your heart to someone who will run it over with a truck? Give yourself a break and work on falling out of love with this ape. If he's mean now, he's not going to get any better. Run!
ms. X


Dear msX ~
how do you get rid of a hicky?

Dear Hickey,
People try wearing scarves or turtlenecks or putting makeup on them. This usually just calls more attention to a hickey. There is no way to get rid of one, short of letting time heal it.
ms. X


Dear msX ~
My mom just told me that now that Iím a teen I can be trusted. So she told me she did drugs. I no if I tell someone I can be taken away. I don't want to hurt my mom like that even though she is hurting me. I need to tell someone just to get it off my chest. I don't no how to tell her that I cry ever night thinking about this. I don't like when she yells because she told me when she yells it's just because she has not had pot yet. I can't go outside of my room without crying. When I smell it in the house or on her it is all I can do not to cry. I don't want to live my life like this anymore. She just told me but, she been doing it for so long. Please help me!!

Dear Mom's a Pothead,
You cannot change what already has happened. Your mom has a problem, but unless she wants to address it, there is little you can do, short of reporting it. And, if you report it, there is a serious chance that Social Services could disrupt your family. I do not mean to minimize your problem at all. But, your mom needs to come to the realization herself that what she is doing is not good for her or her family. When things quiet down and she's less moody, maybe you could tell her how her drug use makes you feel. And, I think that you might get some benefit from an organization like Al-Anon, something for the families of drug users, to help you better understand your role in your mom's drug problem.
Good luck,
ms. X


Dear msX ~
I'm scared lost and confused Iím going to fail computer if I don't find out who wrote the original song Last Kiss All I know is that the latest people to sing this song is Pearl Jam and that is not the original.

Dear Last Kiss,
To find the answer to any musical question, try posting it on the Java Jive board here at Coffeerooms. Someone there, for sure, knows the answer to your question.
ms. X


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